For the first time in a long time, all my female friends in NYC are single. And to some, preferably those who do not reside in a city, singledom is a tragic notion. For those who live in the city, we have a mutual understanding that this is completely normal and wouldn’t have it any other way. This for one, makes dating in NYC very interesting to say the least.
In my short and limited experience on the dating scene in NYC, I’m taking a more lax approach and not taking anything too seriously. This seems to be the same for the guys I have been on dates with. It is a great way to meet new people, and explore new restaurants and bars without having the added pressure of needing to find “the one”. But at the same time myself and my other single friends find first dates to most likely be the last. So what gives? Wouldn’t a great first date lead to a second date? One would think, but no that is not the case.
For example- I have been channeling my inner Carrie Bradshaw since moving to the city. The guy must have sensed this early on in our date. Let me paint the picture. We met at Fifty in the West Village for a glass of wine and that typical get to you know BS that I am now a master of. Conversation was great, he had cool job in the TV industry, lives alone, close with his family and a lot more handsome than his bumble photos. All signs of a winner in my book.
Things were going great, we left the bar and walked around the village. Stopped for cupcakes at Magnolia bakery, ate on a bench in the park- this date was really cute. To finish the little tour around the village he took me to Carrie Bradshaw’s apartment to see those infamous front steps. Bonus points for him, this must be his signature move to win the ladies over. I don’t hate him for it, as it completely worked, +10 points for him, now I will consider a second date. Tour was over, we were parting ways. We said our goodbyes, talked of the next date and I heard from him the next morning saying what a great time he had. All signs pointing to a promising second date. Then he goes ghost. Umm are you there ghost? It’s me Chelsea.
And this is not the first time or the last time I assume, that a great date will likely just be a great date. Is it a generational thing, a city thing, a commitment thing? One will never know the answers to any of these questions nor should you ever take the time and energy to think about any of them. The best dating advice doubles as the best life advice. Always be yourself. And if all else fails screw them and look forward to the next great date. Because with all the dating apps there will be many.
Dating apps like every single app we have on our phones sums up our generation- alone but so connected. While digital dating becomes more and more prominent, I will still hold out hope for a romantic encounter on the train or in a grocery store or coffee shop. It happens in the movies so why can’t it happen in real life?
Now, what to wear for dating in NYC. Literally anything goes. That is the best part about dating in NYC. Be yourself, be comfortable and be confident and no matter what you wear, you will feel your best.
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